how the toilet saved my marriage...

so friday morning i got up at 7:15 am with ella and made her pancakes. i called in to the bedroom to see if j. wanted any, and he didn't. after her breakfast elenora trotted into her room and proceeded to throw a book off her toy box and onto the floor. that is one pet peeve of mine. i really don't like it when she throws books on the floor. and especially library books, which this one was. i said to her "elenora, i want you to pick up the library book." and she did something she rarely does: she stood there crying and stubbornly refusing to pick up the book. i just kept on gently, but firmly, stating that she needed to pick up the book, and she just stood there refusing to do so and crying loudly. finally j. came into the room, and the change of scenery pulled her out of herself long enough for her to pick up the book.

but then j. was mad that he'd had to get up and was sort of claiming that i had purposely tried to keep him awake all morning with things like asking if he wanted pancakes and elenora's crying. so he said he was going to sleep at a motel for a night so he could sleep in. which i didn't appreciate. and we ended up just angry with each other. i took elenora outside for a walk, and when i came back inside i went to the bathroom and as i turned to flush i heard a crash and looked to the floor to see the outside cover of my cellphone laying on the ground (it had been in the shoulder pocket of a purse i had on). i desperately looked all over the floor as the water swirled, but when it cleared i saw my phone in the bottom of the bowl. ick. j. came in and pulled it out, and we just stood there laughing about the whole thing.

i got a new phone. but i lost all my telephone numbers. the only ones i have memorized are for j. and a.

friday night h. came over to watch ella while i got a hair cut downtown. afterwards, she stayed and chatted with me for over an hour about these brunner boys we married.

sometimes i just find marriage to be a ridiculous thing. why do people do it? what was god intending when he suggested it? "till death do us part" seems to me now to be a very naive notion for young people who grow up on idealism, romanticism, and fairy tales.

j. and i are fine now, by the way. we'll keep working on this a little longer.